自我完善

富兰克林的道德准则依然熠熠发光

300年前,一位20岁的青年给自己制定了13个道德准则,身体力行,帮助自己成就了他人无法达到的成绩。他就是美国的国父之一,本杰明·富兰克林。终其一生,在美国独立,科学发明和媒体商业等重要领域都有非凡的建树。为什么不多不少正好是13个准则呢?据说,他是督促自己每星期特别关注一个准则,把它放在记事本的首页。那么13个准则正好每个可以每年循环实践4次,52/13=4。我们看看这13个准则:

  1. 自我克制
  2. 沉默是金
  3. 整齐有序
  4. 解决方法
  5. 俭朴
  6. 勤奋努力
  7. 诚恳
  8. 公平
  9. 适度
  10. 整洁
  11. 内心宁静
  12. 忠贞
  13. 谦虚

坚持实践它们,一定会让我们的一生更美好。甚至可以让现代的软件工具帮你,制定目标,记录心得。”虽然我远没有达到完美,但是身体力行它们让我成为更好更快乐的人“

 

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This 300 Year Old System Will Help You Become the Best Version of Yourself

Jayme Hoffman

How do you become the best version of yourself?
This question inspired 20-year-old Benjamin Franklin to create the 13-virtue character development system.
Benjamin’s 13 virtues helped him succeed in politics, invention, music, business, science and diplomacy.
A few of his accomplishments…
Politics: contributed to America’s independence and is referred to as “the only President of the United States who was never President of the United States.”
Invention: invented the lighting rod, bifocals, long-arm, Franklin stove and political cartoons.
Business: created multiple successful newspapers and the wildly popular Poor Richard’s Almanack.
I discovered the 13-virtue system 3 years ago while reading Walter Isaacson’s “Benjamin Franklin: An American Life.” Benjamin’s stories inspired me to try out the system and strive for improvement in all the aspects of my life.
Here’s the 13 virtues and what I’ve learned after 3 years of practice.
Benjamin Franklin’s 13 Virtues
Benjamin practiced his 13 virtues daily by carrying around a ledger and placing a dot on the virtue he failed to live up to for that day.
He focused on one specific virtue each week by placing it at the top of his ledger. Focusing on one virtue each week meant that Benjamin would practice each virtue four times per year (52/13=4).

  1. Practicing virtues makes you better in ways you never imagined.
    Do you understand the humility in touchdowns? Can you keep calm when all are losing their heads? Do you proactively learn or reactively distract yourself?
    The routine of practicing each virtue forces you to think about the most important areas of life that we often take for granted.
    Here’s some thoughts I’ve picked up.
    Humility
    Humility is scoring a touchdown and walking off the field thinking, that was my job. It’s the foundation of all other virtues. You cannot improve with out it.
    Proactive
    Proactive people focus on preparing, reactive people focus on repairing.
    Proactive media is researching/learning. Reactive media is browsing.
    End in mind (Goals)
    You can’t accomplish anything without having an end in mind.
    Tranquility (or Zen)
    Most of your troubles are solved by living in the now.
    Mark Twain said it best — “My life has been filled with terrible misfortune most of which never happened”
    Focus
    Knowing what you want (goals) is half the battle. Removing the unimportant is the other half.
    Inquisitiveness
    Curiosity is the gateway to learning.
    “Questions are little holes in your mind where answers fit.” — C. Christensen
    Courage
    Courage and grit do not exist without fear.
    — Fear: unpleasant anticipation of pain.
    — Courage: doing something that frightens you.
    — Grit: being courageous for long periods.
    Moderation
    Moderation is balance.
    It’s much easier to abstain than to moderate.
    Silence
    The quieter you are, the more you can hear, listen and learn.
    Always think before you speak.
    Communication
    “Good communication is like a pencil: it has to have a point.” — Maybe Twain
    Patience
    Patience is all about trust.
    It’s not waiting passively — it’s the calmness during gritty times.
    Reflection
    Reflection is recognizing hindsight.
    It’s connecting the dots looking backwards.
    The unexamined life is not worth living. — Socrates
  2. Change the virtues you practice to fit your life.
    You don’t have to practice the same 13 virtues that Benjamin Franklin did.
    Benjamin Franklin wasn’t the first person to define and practice a set of virtues. — The Samurai practiced “The Bushido Code” or seven virtues. Aristotle introduced and practiced 12 virtues.
    You should practice the virtues you value most.

I changed the virtues I practice immediately after my first 13 weeks. The virtues I replaced aren’t unimportant. I just felt like there are other virtues I wanted to spend more time on.
Some of my modifications.
Tranquility: I changed tranquility to Zen because it’s easier to practice.
Order: I changed Order to End in mind because it’s clearer.
Inquisitive: I added inquisitive and believe this is one of the most important virtues in my life.
Proactive: I added proactive because it’s important to take responsibility for your life.
Courage: I added courage because you can’t grow without doing things that scare you.
Empathy: I added empathy to get better at treating people how they want to be treated.
Communication: I added communication because I think it’s important to be able to get a message across.
Reflection: I added reflection because I think it’s important to live an examined life.
3. Practice your virtues with modern software tools.
Benjamin Franklin tracked and practiced his virtues using a notebook.
I initially tried to keep track of everything in a moleskin notebook. I’m not a big user of pen and paper. I often forgot to think about the virtue and the notebook turned into a bunch of app/product sketches.
Switching from paper to software helped me remember and practice each virtue consistently. Here’s how I use each app.
Todoist
I use the todo app, Todoist to track habits on a daily basis and to remind myself to practice a new virtue each week. Here’s how it works.
Create a project for the virtues. Mine is titled “13.”
Create a new task for each virtue. I put a “13 -” in front of each virtue so that I know the difference among my main todo list.
Set a daily reminder for the main virtue you practice for the week. Mine is set every day at 7am. The virtue you’re practicing for the week will show up in your inbox (main todo list) each morning.
Create an extra task for “New virtue” and add a reminder for every Sunday. This reminds you to start a new virtue for the following week.

 

Paper
I use the note taking app, dropbox paper to track notes, links, lessons and quotes for each virtue. You could also use iA Writer, Bear or Evernote.
I keep a master note of all the virtues with a todo list for each one. I often discover lessons, links and books relevant to virtues I’m not focused on for that week. I add all these things as tasks for that specific virtue. I revisit the tasks when I’m focused on that virtue for the week.
I have a note for each virtue that includes descriptions, definitions, quotes and links. I use my daily 7am alarm to spend 15–30 minutes reading and writing about each virtue. I put everything I find in this note.

 

  1. Never settle with where you are in life but understand that you’ll never master a virtue.
    Here’s what Benjamin Franklin wrote 60 years after he created and practiced the 13-virtue system.
    Tho’ I never arrived at the perfection I had been so ambitious of obtaining, but fell far short of it, yet I was, by the endeavour, a better and a happier man than I otherwise should have been if I had not attempted it.
    —Benjamin Franklin
    I’ll spend the rest of my life practicing a set of virtues and will never come close to mastering a single one.
    I don’t think you can master a virtue and I don’t think thats the point.
    The 13-character development system is about the process of striving for perfection. Practice this system not for the destination, but for the change it will require getting there.
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